Meeting John de Ruiter (www.johnderuiter.com) in 2000, did two things: it refined my criteria for what a life well-lived is on the outside, and it increased my ability to have more and more subtle nuances of awareness for my inner life, in my heart and deeper levels of my body (de Ruiter, 1999). My ability to know what truly nurtures me impacted my work as a therapist and educator.
The work with John de Ruiter was so bountiful that my wife and I decided to live closer to his College of Integrated Philosophy in Edmonton, Canada, and we moved there in 2002, where we still live and study.
His use of the term ‘knowing’ resonated very strongly with me when I met him. I remember starting to think, as a therapist, that the bottom line was not what a client thought or felt, but rather what they actually knew was true, in the midst of whatever they were thinking or feeling. That sensibility was just at the baby stage when I met John de Ruiter and he spoke often about the importance of knowing. To this day, I cherish my love of that word and the visceral experience of the phenomenon of knowing, which began in my heart, and as I have stayed with that knowing in my heart for many years it has moved more and more into my whole body. Now it is whole-body knowing that is full of heart energy.